Depression

Let’s admit it…I have had my bad days MORE than my good days. Days when I feel down, I feel blue, I feel weepy and burst into tears. I love life so much and live each and every moment, every second of it by living in it, dwelling in it, enjoying it and doing something new. I go to the gym (I dropped out later), I watch movies, I party (minus smoking/drinking), I travel and explore new places, I am an avid cyclist and part of the Indian Cyclist Club. I also attend to spiritual class once a week. Then despite all this, why do I still feel this way? No, I don’t think my depression is due to the side-effects of the drugs. It is more due to being SINGLE and being alone even though I have vast circle of friends. Yes, drugs, too, play a role in depression (emotional, physical as well as mental) and toss your hormonal balance, but I have often found that the moment I talk to the person I love, the cloud of depression lifts and I become happy again.

So my source of depression is emotional. Not because of rejection (I have been rejected many times once I declared my status), not because of being alone (as I have lived alone ever since I turned 18), and obviously not because I am dependent on him. When I dwelled deeper into understanding my depression better, I found that my one-sided love for him was my main cause of my depression, which is not in my control. He was once my boyfriend, now to accept him back as a friend, when I am still in love with him, was totally next to impossible for me, no matter how hard I tried to move on.

Anyways, coming back to the topic of depression, I am aware that most  people have faced it too. It can be drug-related, stress-induced, job-related, future concerns, relationship, or society fears. All because it comes down to just one thing: Being HIV POSITIVE. And this depression can only be erased when one feels free and accepted, loved and respected. Much as one doesn’t want to solely blame the virus for being the cause of it, we can’t help but accept the fact that it is solely related due to this. Even though one will try everything like I did: partying, travelling, watching movies, being with friends, the source of depression won’t go unless one is free from its source. Like, for example, my source is being wanted and accepted back. How many of you must have fought for it inside/outside? The emotional trauma? Fighting with your will-power? Trying your best to think positive and live positively?

Also, for me, living under anti-depressant medicine was not the answer, as I didn’t want to add more medicines into my system. It is hard enough for our bodies to fight off the virus and the side effects from the HIV drugs, but now we have to fight off depression, too!

I pray that our future generation not live this way, the way we live. That’s why we are paving our way, speaking out, helping others understand so that we make life easier for future generations to help understand what goes inside us better. And I pray that there is a cure soon. It may be late for us but better late than never!

Till then, let us keep on with the fight and will to live.

Until there is a Cure.

 

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Mariatmejia's picture

Hi my dear Jo. I am sorry you feel depressed..this is something that happens to us at some point..some more than others. and the meds do have a lot to do with it. I want to give you some advice from my soul...Happiness comes from withing ( and you know this ) no one else makes you happy. they complement you!! not complete you. I know single people that are very happy and some that are not single that are very depressed. please go to the doctor if it continues. sometimes we have unbalances of the brain hun. we should never look at exterior things to make us happy..cause at the end we end up more depressed. first you have to be happy within and then if someone comes along to complement you ..then that forms a full circle :D do as I do when I get down. always know that their re people in worst situations than us. children that are burned, people that dont even have a rice to eat. people that cant smell the flowers,walk,hear,see. you are a beautiful healthy blessed woman! and your prince will come one day! but YOU have to be happy with you first <3

love and light

Maria

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