I Have a Secret!

For most of my adult life I identified as a heterosexual woman. See, my family, community, and society told me I was supposed to like boys/men. After all, I was a girl, right? I was raised with the notion that girls date boys, not other girls. Don't get me wrong, there are LGBT people in my family, but like all other ingrained stigmas, that was them not me. When I was 13 years old, I told a cousin that I wanted to become a mechanic when I grew up. She immediately said, "if you become a mechanic people are going to call you a 'bulldagger'". I didn't know what the word meant, but I knew it was bad by the look on her face and the way she spit the words out. A month later I became sexually active with a boy.

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As Olay says " Love the skin your in!" As humans we create this image among others based on home teachings and criticize when your thoughts or feelings are not "normal". Be you! Be proud! Love you despite others perception.

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