After my family doctor confirmed my pregnancy, he referred me to an OB/GYN. My husband and I were so excited. A mere three months after being married, we were pregnant!
I went to my first OB/GYN appointment, with my proud husband by my side. The doctor performed the standard tests, including an initial blood workup, in which I was tested for hCG levels and STD's (like HIV and syphilis). I had no concerns whatsoever. After all, my husband and I had just been tested for STD's before we got married. We knew that we wanted to have children right away and had gone to the doctor together and requested to be tested for “all STD’s.” We didn’t know that you specifically had to ask to be tested for HIV and assumed this was included in the standard screening.
About a week after my appointment, I was sitting at my desk at work and my phone rang. It was a nurse from my OB/GYN’s office. She asked if I could talk. Over the phone, while I was at work, she proceeded to tell me I was HIV positive. I was shocked. I immediately burst into tears and became hysterical. Since I was at work, the other girls came over to my desk to check on me. I didn’t know what to say, so I told them the truth. I also told them what the nurse had told me: it could be a mistake due to the pregnancy hormones and I would need additional testing.
I left work and cried all the way home. My family came to see me and tried to comfort me by assuring me that it was a “false positive” due to the pregnancy. I was so scared. I prayed more than I had ever prayed in my life. I cried more than I had ever cried in my life.
I went back to the OB/GYN’s office for additional testing to confirm the HIV. This time, I was given an appointment to come in for my results. I will never forget the drive to the doctor’s office for the results. My stomach was in knots and I spent the entire ride crying and praying.
They brought me into a private office, not even a medical exam room… I knew. I knew that it was not going to be ‘good’ news. The doctor told me… I was HIV positive. I again became hysterical and began to hyperventilate. This could not be happening to me. I did everything right. I never used needles. I was not promiscuous. How did this happen?!? At this point, my husband and I knew this meant that we were both positive. He would have to be tested, but we already knew the answer. We were both HIV positive.