It will make you feel better,
I must say that my healing adventure has been quite a one.
I have talked to people from the past and addressed those times when I feel that they have wronged me.
I have accepted apologies
And then cried some more.
Feeling better and better after each one of those healing sessions commence.
But when you do some dangerous shit like revisiting the past ...
... you give other people the chance to resurface those memories, too.
Or other ones that you both forgot were made.
Good and bad.
Good is cool.
It's those bad ones that complicate things.
So now, here you are on your own healing journey and somebody wants to tell you that they have had to heal from some shit YOU done did.
You mean to tell me that I could have been the toxic person in someone's life?
It could happen.
It has happened to me.
Being the older sister and cousin I never realized how much the younger ones looked up to me.
I never realized that my actions would affect their lives in ANY way, especially not a traumatic one.
Well, I don't think anyone has ended up in therapy directly for the things that I have done or said
but I see it in their actions.
I can watch certain destructive behaviors of theirs and say to myself,
Yup! They got this dumb shit from me.
Which then translates into,
Dannnnnng, I messed up their whole life.
But that's not it.
Tip: Stay rational. Only take responsibility where it applies.
For me, I understand that I am still learning and growing.
I understand that the person that I am today does not represent the same person I was back then.
The person back then just may have been that toxic person to someone that I be trying to avoid for my own self today.
That does not feel good.
What not to do: Don't harp on it forever.
Acknowledge it. Rectify as best possible.
To show and prove how apologetic I am today, I have become more aware of the interactions that I have with those around me.
I now understand that things DO come back around and have experienced the healing powers of love.
I have made a conscious decision to operate from this place of love as a standard.
Since I love you, there are certain things I just won't do.
And when I say I love you, I mean it.
+ Ci Ci +