finding balance

In just a few days I will turn 50. Years. Old. I have to spell it out like that mostly because it’s hard to fully comprehend. I realize that I am not the first to feel this way. In fact, more and more of us (women living with HIV) are doing it. It’s nuts really. And awesome.

This year has been a year of so many challenges and trials. First it was resuming back to work in Abuja and was given a letter of termination of appointment from the organization we work for. Later in the month of March I lost an Aunty--in short from March to November I lost three of my aunties and an in-law.

I have a confession, I am a medication hoarder. I first started taking medication in the early 1990s after finally finding a doctor who was willing to see me. At the time I had great health insurance, but doctor after doctor refused to see me. Much has changed since then.

I hear people say all the time that they wouldn’t change a thing in their past. I can say without skipping a beat, there are things that I would change.

What happens when you receive an HIV positive diagnosis?

¿Qué pasa cuando recibes un diagnóstico positivo de VIH?

I realized as I saw my computer screen with my grandkids, I never saw any kid grow up. Not my child, not my family's children.

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