I am a Latina, HIV positive, a lesbian and a woman! 4 strikes against me ..but I am not out! Many know the struggles that we go through if we have any of these categories with stigma and discrimination! Imagine having these 4 (strikes) working against you and still trying to show that you are worthy and that you can make it! Well of course we can! No matter what things in life are against us, we must never let anything stop us or bring us down! I must be real…I have been discriminated more for being a lesbian woman that is happily married and very vocal about whom i love,"my best friend and partner in life ..Lisa." I am a pretty known international social media activist and when I started social media, I would get around 20 emails a day...now it is up to 500 some days. Between my emails, blogs, vlogs in my YouTube channel, my Facebook activism page, my 2 international support groups with people from all over the world in English and Spanish, my website and my Twitter account, it is insane, and I know the more people know me around the world, the more I would be exposed to judgement. I try and help and give hope as much as I can. I find it kind of ironic that some of the same people that I have helped and want me to represent them and fight HIV/AIDS stigma are the ones stigmatizing me for my lifestyle and whom I love! This is not right! I feel a sense of betrayel when they tell me I make them uncomfortable when they read me expressing my love for my wife Lisa! I will be damned if I stop being me to make others comfortable! If you cannot accept all of me...do not accept me at all. I have zero tolerance for ignorance! And yes, I have tried to educate those in places where they were taught we were deviants, and tell them God is love and where there is love, God is there. Some have learned to accept and respect me for who I am (all of me). It is so sad to see people that are being discriminated and stigmatized because they have HIV tell me, “Oh Maria, you are doing God’s work, but tainting it with your lifestyle!” (get a freaking life)…or telling me that they felt sorry for me until they saw I was a lesbian! I do not need pity from anyone! I am not a victim! I am a woman that is proud and is happy with whom she is! Do not waste your time quoting the bible to me (which happens everyday)! I know the bible! I am a Christian! You can't choose what you want in the bible to attack other human beings!! If you are going to tell me that I am going to hell for who I love, then you have to also follow the rules of those times…be ok with slavery! Get executed for being a non virgin! And get stoned to death for eating shellfish! It is all there. Please learn not to judge others, and not try to be in the position of God (if you are a true Christian, you are breaking the number one rule!! Thou shall not judge). I really believe loving God is shown through your deeds and having a pure heart and soul. I am loyal and faithful, and a woman that is a work in progress. I am not perfect! But then again, no one is. I can tell you though that when I am told that they can’t wait to see when my corpse is rotting in hell and they hope I pay and die soon, I pray for them and pity them! And I think wow!!!! Is this someone that is actually following Christ with so much hate? Notttttt! Live and let live! If you are someone that is being bullied or being hated on or judged by people like this, know you are so loved and worthy! And you have the right to be who you want to be as long as you don't hurt anyone else. Be proud of who you are and do not let anyone else tell you differently. Sometimes people with so much hate and say these horrible things, are people that have self hate and there words are a pure reflection of who they are and they need to put others down to feel important. Wish them well, even if they persecute you! I know it is hard, but love transforms hate and I hope I can see the day that people are more compassionate and have more empathy! Words hurt, but we have to develop hard skin and know that we are ok! It is them that have the need to hurt others. I have been so helpless with the situation of "Uganda..kill the gays bill." A bill proposing that gay and lesbian Ugandans be executed is coming back to Uganda's Parliament - it could pass at any moment. Worse yet, rumors are suggesting that the bill has been changed in committee and we may not have a chance to see it before it is rushed through. President Museveni once promised that he would not sign this bill into law. With pressure mounting on him to support the bill, only a massive global outcry - along with our friends in Uganda - will make him keep his promise. Last year, we helped stop this bill in its tracks. We need to do it again. Below is some information and a link to a Facebook page about this: Bahati Logic: David Bahati is the Ugandan MP who first dreamt up the Kill the Gays Bill and presented it to a bunch of American Evangelists in 2008. He's even got a Facebook page dedicated to him: David Bahati is an idiot. Not one of ours, though we understand the sentiment. If you'd like to let him know what you think of his bill, you can find his contact details on his parliamentary page, starting with his e-mail address: email@example.com. Must admit, we would like to question his logic, publicly, using the Twitter hashtag #bahatilogic.
With much love and light as always,
~MARIA T MEJIA ~
I KNOW that you are wonderful in all your complexities. That is what makes you who you are and such a strong advocate. Don't let the compartmentalizers get to you, there are more of us out there who appreciate and accept you for all that you are. We know that we are so many complex components as well. I am wonderful and total in who I am as well.
Ty so much Barb xo love and light <3
i just kinda stumbled on to this blog and I just wanted to say you are a very strong woman and God Bless you with all the work you are doing!
Ty Naya! much love and light to you!
I'm sorry if I sounded harsh. You and Lisa look good together and I was just trying to boost you up and stand up for you. God is Love and I was just forgetting that the trials you have are worse but you and Lisa are my heros because you are a union of one. Release your mind and you will perceive a world released. Bob
I wasn't gonna e mail but I have to say you don't have strikes against you. You saved my life and who knows how many others , I'm bi sexual and I know you are thinking"he couldn't possibly know what it's like. Because I don't have HiV. But sometimes we don't realize the difference we make in this world. I used to be terrified to even hug someone with HIV. Now I embrace strong people like you. Your lover is very to have you Maria!!! Maybe I'm talking out of turn but these are not strikes. Of course I couldn't possibly know what the body has gone through. But I I've had ulcers in my throat , thrush , fevers thAt are antibiotic resistant. I was sure I had it. I know I never met you and all. But I'm perturbed not at you but the damn stigma. I guess I'm beside myself. You are wonderful sweet woman I don't care if your mad because I told you you have no strikes against you. No I'm not a Saleeena worshipper or none of that. You are a wonderful sweet beautiful woman and so is your partner and I DemAnd you stop saying strikes about you. Put a pic of yourself when you were a little girl and say I'm gonna be kind and loving to little Maria today !! Sorry. I hate fuckin stigma!! Sorry again.