My Never-Ending Battle With the Scale: My Journey to Better Health

Submitted on May 23, 2024 by  Marig2016

At the age of 11 I was diagnosed with PCOS (polycystic ovary syndrome) and while it didn't make sense, it was explained that this is why I was "bigger" than all the other kids in my class. I can remember in my barely teen years going with my mom to the Curve classes... and from then on trying endless programs to help me lose weight.

As I got older, no matter how many programs I tried and being mindful of what I ate, sometimes to the point of starvation, nothing seemed to work. For years I inquired about weight loss surgery, and it was either never covered by my insurance or the out of pocket payment was way more than I could afford.

I've struggled with my weight for so long I began to feel defeated. It started taking a huge toll on not just my mental but my physical wellbeing and I knew it was time for drastic measures. While I've struggled with sharing the next part publicly, I'm reminded that people will ALWAYS have an opinion but what makes me special is my ability to be transparent and vulnerable, so here we are and ultimately this decision is for me and no one else.

At the time of this blog being published, I will be in route to Mexico in preparation for my weight loss surgery! Prior to the pre-op diet, I was at my heaviest and I had been having major knee issues for almost two years. It was finally time to put my health first and put my full faith in God!

I started the process earlier this year and I was met with so many hurdles and discouragement. I finally threw my hands up and surrendered to God. I said if this is for me Lord, you will have it be simple and stress free. Not even 24 hours later a friend shared with me about having had weight loss surgery almost one year ago and raved about the doctor and facility. I said what do I have to lose? I submitted a request for more information on a Thursday night and Friday afternoon I was on a call with the patient coordinator. That night around 9pm I completed the medical history form and by midnight I received an email that the doctor reviewed my information and approved me for surgery. Saturday afternoon the patient coordinator called me and we set the date for surgery: 5/24!

I am fully at peace with the process and the facility I've chosen to work with and have that unexplainable peace about it all. I'm grateful to God for his favor and seeing me through to this point. So, here's hello from Mexico!

I hope this blog encourages you to choose you and do whatever your heart desires in order to be the best and healthiest version of you!

My new motto for all the men: If you weren't checking for me before, don't check for me now. 😅🫶🏽


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Submitted by o_g_ford

So happy this choice made itself available so easefully! So glad for you making a move that feels so good and right to you! Thank you so much for sharing! <3 

Submitted by TSLatina74

Sister I hope you have a speedy recovery Love ya and hope to see you soon You are a warrior and will do great . love the positive outgoing person you are and thank you for always being a positive role model to me.

Submitted by Marig2016

thank you so much hermana! love you! one of the beautiful things about this sisterhood is that we get to just be ourselves without worry or fear of judgement! so grateful for TWP and our community 

Submitted by Destiny1995

Yesssssssssss my good sis you take care of you, put yourself first whatever gets you to the best version of yourself. I'm so proud of you sending lots of loveeeeee

Submitted by Marig2016

thanks so much sis! it definitely has been very eye opening but i know it will just help to get me to the best version of myself. Without good health what do we really have ? 

Submitted by MariaHIVMejia

Querida Hermana,



I am extremely happy for you! You deserve this and I am so glad that everything went so well for you. I can't wait to see your evolution 

Love and light 


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