What We NOT Gon' Do...

Respectfully that ship has sailed.

I've fought something bigger in the last 2+ years and found something even greater within myself. I don't like for people to whisper "HIV" to me- nah... say it with your chest. It's not a SITUATION, it's a diagnosis. If it were cancer, you'd say cancer, so call a spade a spade, and IF I decide you're worthy of a response about it based on your genuine ask, I will respond appropriately. I am a vessel. I am going through more than HIV. I have survived more than managing HIV. HIV is a part of my legacy but it's not my character, personality, or complete lifestyle. It is my work and an intricate subsection of my life.

So yes, genuinely ask the uncomfortable questions about HIV. Just don't ever try to make me feel like I should be ashamed.

-Reflection on a conversation between me and someone who did not like that I kindly asked them not to refer to my HIV diagnosis as a SITUATION





Red40something's picture



Yes Sis say that !!! We are

Kingstongranny's picture

Yes Sis say that !!! We are more then are Diagnosis .. 



Bethany M. Brown M.Ed.'s picture

It is like some folks believe that we stop having a life or that all of our lives are defined by HIV. <Grrrrr.> I have a bookmark in my life: Pre- and Post-HIV/AIDS diagnoses. I also have many OTHER bookmarks! Pre- and Post- baby. Pre- and Post- degree. Pre- and Post-purchasing a home. Pre- and Post-career change. All of these (and MANY more) have been benchmarks to define my life. And, MANY of them are good, positive, and favorably life-defining. Thank you for bringing to light so pointedly how HIV/AIDS lives within the dynamic, prismatic stories of our lives and not the only thing in our lives. *hugs*


Blog themes: 

admin's picture

Become a Member

Join our community and become a member to find support and connect to other women living with HIV.

Join now >

Do you get our newsletter?

admin's picture

Sign up for our monthly Newsletter and get the latest info in your inbox.

none_existing name


Browse Blogs by Theme