Forgiveness Day 4- Taking out the Trash

Submitted on Aug 31, 2011 by  DrKatMd

I hope everyone is ok and weren't too inconvenienced by the effects of the Hurricane. Although the Hurricane was a scary thing, it was also a humbling experince. In the blink of an eye, everything can be great- sun shining and all that jazz, and then the winds may blow, lightening may crash, trees may fall and your life will be turned upside down. But eventually, the sun will shine again. Hopefully during this time, you not only worked on your physical--cleaning up after the hurricane, but your spiritual--cleaning up after the hurricane that has happened within you life.

After I forgave some people, I started seeing a huge influx of people who noticed a difference in myself. Now I don't know if it was because i had that weight off of my shoulders so now I had more confidence or what, but I have soo many date offers, I might have to get an assisatnt lol. I am not going to take them up on them just yet, because I want to make sure I am right with myself, but it DOES feel good to have the offers *smile*...

Once the hurricane is over and you start to clean up, TAKE OUT THE TRASH. Don't sit there and mill over the past and what it meant to you- ITS OVER. You don't need to keep any mementos and the biggest memento is HIM!. Get all of his stuff and HIM (or her) OUTTTTTTT!!!!. You forgave now you have to heal and move on. If you decide to take them back later, that's fine, well and good, but right now you can't make any decisions in the state that you are in. Heal first, then live...

A Powerful Message

"Beware of the Garbage Trucks"

By: David J. Pollay

How often do you let other people's nonsense change your mood?

Do you let a bad driver, rude waiter, curt boss, or an insensitive employee ruin your day?

Unless you're the Terminator, for an instant you're probably set back on your heels.

However, the mark of a successful person is how quickly one can get back their focus on what's important.

Sixteen years ago I learned this lesson in the back of a New York City taxi cab. Here's what happened.

I hopped in a taxi, and we took off for Grand Central Station.

We were driving in the right lane when, all of a sudden, a black car jumped out of a parking space right in front of us.

My taxi driver slammed on his breaks, skidded, and missed the other car's back end by just inches!

The driver of the other car, the guy who almost caused a big accident, whipped his head around and he started yelling bad words at us.

My taxi driver just smiled and waved at the guy. And I mean, he was friendly.

So, I said, "Why did you just do that? This guy almost ruined your car and sent us to the hospital!"

And this is when my taxi driver told me what I now call, "The Law of the Garbage Truck. Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of garbage, full of frustration, full of anger, and full of disappointment. As their garbage piles up, they need a place to dump it. And if you let them, they'll dump it on you. When someone wants to dump on you, don't take it personally. You just smile, wave, wish them well, and move on. You'll be happy you did".

So this was it: The "Law of the Garbage Truck." I started thinking, how often do I let Garbage Trucks run right over me? And how often do I take their garbage and spread it to other people: at work, at home, on the streets? It was that day I said, "I'm not going to do it anymore."

I began to see garbage trucks. Like in the movie "The Sixth Sense," the little boy said, "I see Dead People." Well, now "I see Garbage Trucks." I see the load they're carrying. I see them coming to drop it off.

And like my Taxi Driver, I don't make it a personal thing; I just smile, wave, wish them well, and I move on.

One of my favorite football players of all time, Walter Payton, did this every day on the football field. He would jump up as quickly as he hit the ground after being tackled.

He never dwelled on a hit. Payton was ready to make the next play his best. Good leaders know they have to be ready for their next meeting.

Good parents know that they have to welcome their children home from school with hugs and kisses. Leaders and parents know that they have to be fully present, and at their best for the people they care about.

The bottom line is that successful people do not let Garbage Trucks take over their day.

What about you?

What would happen in your life, starting today, if you let more garbage trucks pass you by?

Here's my bet. You'll be happier. Life's too short to wake up in the morning with regrets, so Love the people who treat you right. Forget about the ones who don't. Believe that everything happens for a reason.

If you get a chance, TAKE IT!

If it changes your life, LET IT!

Nobody said it would be easy, they just promised it would be Worth It!

I thought I would share this because it is sooo true. Everyday we miss our blessings by letting Garbage Trucks sit in our lives, instead of just waving them ahead. It’s just like if you say you aren’t going to do something or deal with a situation anymore and you keep revisiting it. Put it in the trash can and move on. So to all my fellow bloggers, I am taking out my trash TODAY; and to all my trash- I want it ALL back- and I WILL take it BY FORCE!

Peace and Blessings


Submitted by Tiffany

Thank you for posting and reminding us to take out the trash. Love it! I may know an assistant once you are ready (lol)!

Submitted by Tiffany

Awesome, AWESOME post, darlin'. He didn't "need" a companion; he didn't "need" friends; he "wanted" a house. He doesn't have a companion; he doesn't have friends; he HAS a house. I hope he and his house have a nice life together. GOOD-bye.

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