My lovely people, have you ever witnessed the moment a dreamer finally becomes a doer? That is what my story of today is about.
Since childhood, I expressed myself through every art form I could find. By dancing the traditional Umuyebe (a dance intended for Burundian men), drumming in a boys' groups, or any other way. People told me I was "crazy", doing things meant only for boys. But my inner voice told me, "Be happy, Eric". I just could not see any barrier when it came to art!
Thanks to my parents and my school, I was allowed to be myself. So, every time Eliane performed, Eric felt alive too. Even as a child, I knew one day I would show Eric to the world.
When I attended Lycée Étoiles des Montagnes in Jenda village, I joined theatre and played a male role, a chef cook, and I shined! Later, while working at Musée Vivant in 2000, I met a man selling an Indonongo instrument I asked him to teach me to play it. I asked myself: Why don't girls play this instrument? I knew many female artists, but they only sang, none of them played a traditional instrument like the drums or Indonongo.
When I started performing my Indonongo, compliments were few and insults were many. But the more people tried to stop me, the more determined I became. Eventually, they stopped talking, and I kept playing. I became the first Burundian woman known for performing the cowhorn instrument.
When I moved to the Netherlands, I became known as an African woman teaching African culture. I played mothers on stage, performed Indonongo, and carried my heritage with pride.
But my dream did not end there. As a dreamer and doer, I wanted to keep my promise to Eric and show him to the world. Not just for fun, but with purpose. I wanted Eric to help me fight HIV stigma, break taboos, and raise awareness.
In the beginning Eric was making a lot of noise, stomping HIV stigma away, and then I realised that he could do so much more. So I asked myself, "What if I played the Indonongo as Eric?", "What if I sang too?" And wouldn't it be nice to be the first Burundian Drag King living openly with HIV and performing a traditional cowhorn instrument? Really, how many artists are out there who combine all these talents and share this with the world? Allow me to brag, I worked hard for it!
And that is who I became. Unique, unstoppable, and proud.
Thanks to Girls Won't Be Girls / Boys Won't Be Boys, I now tour theatres in the Netherlands, sharing my story and my culture.
Performing as Eric feels like bringing my entire life on stage. My childhood memories, my parents' encouragement, the journey of Eliane and Eric growing together. I share the hardship, my HIV diagnosis, the moments of darkness, the joy of sharing my status, and the victory of choosing life.
When I ask the audience at my show to repeat…
I am strong like Eric!
I am lovely like Eric!
I embrace who I am!
I never give up!
...it is because someone in that room is fighting their own battle, just like Eric did. Those words are for them.
Allow me, with all my heart, to offer my deepest thanks to Rikkert van Huisstede, Artistic Director of Boys Won't Be Boys, for believing in my story and recognising its impact. And to the entire BWBB and GWBG community, thank you for your support. Together, we break stereotypes and taboos.
And to all these girls with beautiful dreams in my home village of Murira, Burundi, and beyond I want to tell you that the world is changing. You no longer have to wait for men to decide what you can or cannot do. Look around, find your role model, your inspiration. They will show you what is possible. They make your dreams feel real. And if you can dream it, you can do it.
My lovely community, our work is not done.
We are strong, smart, and resilient.
We will keep showing the world our worth.
Peace,
Eliane (Eric)
This blog was originally posted on hivstigmafighter
