No Ties, No Problem - WRONG

Submitted on Jun 25, 2020 by  Marig2016


Often times, and no disrespect to anyone who has said it, but... not being tied to anything isn't all it's cracked up to be. Let me explain...

Not a mom ✔
Not settled in a career ✔
Don't own a home ✔
Don't have elderly parents to care for ✔
Not in a relationship where I have to talk about life changes ✔

I can literally get up and go is the perception of so many. While this may be true in some fashion, it's also very discouraging and kind of depressing. As a 30 year old woman, I haven't met the man of my dreams, I have no idea what I want to do with my life, I'm financially unstable, and I dont have 'a person'. Now don't get this twisted, happiness comes from within, etc. I am very well aware of that, BUT it would be nice to be needed for something/someone outside of myself.

I have pretty strong family ties, friendships, and community presence. I can't complain, honestly, but when your life feels at a stand still and you're literally just going day by day thinking - is this it?... eh, it's gotta be more! Some of us are stuck in this phase or trance of what's next. What can be done to make ME happy for the rest to follow, and simply put... I HAVE NO IDEA and that's ok!

Society puts so much pressure on women in general to either be a mother or career oriented by a certain age, and let's not talk about biological clocks. Can you just please stop worrying about my uterus?! But maybe that is the problem, our sense of non-fulfillment or that something is missing IS in fact because of what we have been programmed to feel. Let's face it, who hasn't heard all of this a thousand times before... about what is EXPECTED of us versus what we want!

This may be a bunch of babble to some, but to those who feel like they've just had their inner thoughts said out loud, well, I just want you to know you aren't alone. And it's ok if we have NO idea what we want, BUT we have to start somewhere. Don't be afraid to take that leap of faith because in reality we aren't tied to anything but ourselves. Forget your age, forget what society says... life is short. Do what is going to make you happy.


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