I am understanding the trauma I have experienced and how it has affected me. I have done nothing wrong, there is no one to blame. Life circumstances create opportunities for personal growth.
Death of my father at age 12, marital betrayal, loss of a business, and having to relocate away from my only son, my family. Events I have endured.
I don't regret my decisions, rather I long for different circumstances that would have resulted in different choice options. I accept I made the best decisions possible with the situation before me. I made difficult, life altering changes. By myself, out of survival and without a trusted mentor, prompted by a trauma out of my control. I did the best I could with what I had where I was. Changing language from what is repeated in my 'monkey mind' is important to break the cycle of language that "I am not enough."
I know now . . . and tell myself daily:
I love you (with a smile in the mirror),
I am lovable,
I am free to be me,
I am worthy of joy, family, and connection.
My life is worth living.
And yours is too.