I'm so tired of people assuming that because I'm positive that my partner just automatically is positive as well. I'm always asked to participate in studies, speak on panels and the first thing people seem to say is it must be easier to disclose to your partner being that they are positive as well. And I'm just like where did you get that information? Am I not worthy enough to have a partner of a negative status, is it too hard to believe that a man would want to be with me regardless of status, gender identity, race, education, social status?? I mean seriously, as a Transwoman of Color, I know that there is a certain amount of stigma placed on us, but to think that because I'm open with my status and an Advocate for the rights of people living with HIV/AIDS, that anyone I deal with in my love life must share the same status is preposterous. I am HIV Positive and my Partner (Husband of 2 years) is negative. We use TasP and don't use condoms. He is NEGATIVE. YES!!! I'm worthy enough to have a man love me, flaws and all. I guess I'm just ranting, but it's starting to piss me off, assuming this and that but not taking the time to just ask. I have PrEP clients who were treated a certain way because people assumed they were positive. At the end of the day it's no one's business what anyone's status is. But don't assume anything because in the end, you're an Ass.
-Janelle L. Vinson
another thing that I loathe is when they say: you are so lucky to have your spouse accept you with HIV! UMMM NOOOO!! I am blessed to have my baby and be married and together for 10 years! but he is lucky and blessed as well to have me! people need to really think before they talk and not ASSume
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