Loving and Knowing Yourself

Knowing yourself and Loving yourself. This is for anyone but kind of more for us ladies cause I am speaking for myself. When I/you notice yourself needing something, whether it is intimacy, affection, or attention, give yourself what you need. If you need attention, take a day to pamper yourself in some way. Hair and nails for a mother/daughter day for myself. If you need intimacy, spend time writing in a journal or exploring nature. I write books or blogs for The Well Project or take a nice walk in the park. If you need affection, give yourself affection by thinking about what you love about yourself or taking yourself out for dinner and a movie. I'm used to this since I don't date anyone and haven't met my someone special. I have me time. The more easily you can meet your own emotional needs, the healthier your relationships will be because you will know and understand yourself and be better able to express yourself to your partner.

Strive to overcome the following signs:

  • Low self-esteem
  • People-pleasing
  • Poor boundaries
  • Reactivity
  • Caretaking
  • Control
  • Dysfunctional communication
  • Obsessions
  • Dependency
  • Denial
  • Problems with intimacy
  • Painful emotions

Don't compare yourself to other women or men… just be careful that you don't fall into jealousy.

The media plays an important role in modeling relational aggression in women more then men studies have shown, but it happens to all of us. Women who are victims of relational aggression are more likely to suffer from low self-esteem and feel rejected and lonely. The result is a culture of women who feel insecure and unhappy with themselves. I still have my days. I take one day at a time.

The first step to overcoming jealousy is to recognize when you are experiencing it. If you find yourself reading a magazine or watching a show on television and comparing your own body to those of the models or actresses, stop. Realize they are also getting paid a lot to keep their bodies in shape for the roles they play and the things they are involved in. Love yourself for who you are. If you wanna lose weight, change eating habits, join a gym, find an activity partner. I love my gym and I go alone but I get my workout on. I was 225 pounds a few years ago. I went from 120 pounds to 225 in 8 months. As of today, 168… 30 more to lose!

Set clear boundaries that prioritize your own needs. Think of you first. If you're a Christian, yes, put God first of course. I love my God. Without him I am no one. I would be so lost. But set boundaries with regards to how much time you spend with someone. Be sure you have other things going on in your life outside of any romantic relationship if you are involved with someone, whether it is school, work, friends, a fitness routine, or your family. Set clear boundaries with the individual and communicate to this person your need to be your own independent person. Once the boundaries have been discussed, stick to them. I get such good advice from my wonderful friend who has been so busy in his life but has always been there for the short time he has been in my life.




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Welcome ... We need your positive energy! !!!
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From my heart. ... Thank you!!!


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