No peace! (As one of my sisters from 'A girl like me' would say…) whose responsibility is it to stop this virus from spreading? In recent years I have found that the burden lies solely with HIV+ people, women too be specific…. NO PEACE! People should take responsibility for their safety.
Recently I had an unpleasant experience with someone of the opposite sex. I usually never disclose unless I see the relationship going further than a fling… in this case, it was a fling, so no need to disclose. Until Mr. Man tried to force me to have unprotected sex with him… even after freaking out he didn;t give in… until I neutralized him… with a hot slap in the face. He still does not know my status and I have decided to leave him, I’d rather be with someone who loves themselves than a careless man-child. I don’t want to be burdened with other people’s safety… even though I took a vow before God never to infect anyone. It's hard enough facing our health issues everyday without having to play cops for careless lovers, friends and family.
This incident made me realize that the stigma is still pretty much out there… people with HIV are expected to look a certain way. If you are beautiful, healthy, sexy, with no rash people assume you don’t have the virus. That’s disturbing…No peace indeed.