YOU are 100% RESPONSIBLE for your own happiness.

Submitted on Mar 3, 2022 by  JoDha


When friends whom I trusted stabbed me in the back; the friends whom I call my own started to distance away just because I didn't have money in my pockets; the friends whom I loved as "friends" took advantage of me; the friends who said to call whenever I needed them or in any sort of problems turned out to be empty promises; the friends whom I gave utmost importance and held them in high regards and respect treated me like shit – I realized that I need to cut away from them for my own happiness and inner peace.

Fast forward to today, at the age of 46, I have evolved into understanding that if I don't like the way I feel then it is my responsibility to stop it, speak out or shut it off – but not remain silent or subdued into a submission.

Break the emotion of FEAR

Break the chain of CO-DEPENDENCY

Break the chain of RELYING on someone

Once you decide to break free of this shackle, you will have the world at your feet.

(PRINT AND PASTE THAT AFFIRMATION IN FRONT OF THE BATHROOM MIRROR - and read by heart the first thing when you wake up to brush your teeth.)

It is no one else's responsibility to know what's going on with you.

It is no one else's responsibility to make sure you are okay.

It is no one else's responsibility to love you.

And that may sound cruel but it is the truth.

And the sooner that you can recognize that, the sooner you can realise how important you are TO YOU.

You will find that you can keep yourself alive.

You discover the incredible power you hold to keep yourself afloat.

You learn the importance of advocating for your own needs.

Because when it comes down to it...


Submitted by Red40something

Good one Jo. Self love and indeed, having a good sense of self are so important!!! Thanks for sharing!


Submitted by JoDha

Hello Red,

Well, as a human, we all need cuddles, pampering, and being spoilt. But those days are gone and with changing of time people are becoming more and more difficult to understand. And we keep getting stressed by them - hence my post is, to be honest, an escapism - by not expecting - so that we aren't hurt or broken by them. I tend to give myself just 10% (of expectation where needed), remaining 90% I am strong enough to handle on my own. This way, if I have a heartbreak again, I will not be crying buckets :D

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